How long is too long was part of a conversation I was having this week with an acquaintance of mine who works for Chanel. In fact, she works directly with Karl Lagerfeld. Recently we have seen quite a lot of each other because of a few Paris parties where we were seated at the same table.
She is a stunning woman of a certain age who, for as long as I’ve known her, which is about three decades, has always — give or take an inch or two — had the same hair style. Never has her hair hit or passed below her shoulders.
“I don’t understand,” she said to me, “why is it that women of a certain age are wearing their hair below their shoulders?” (She was referring to a handful of women at the soireées we were attending — not mentioning names of course.)
“I don’t think it’s chic at all and definitely not flattering.”
She maintained that after 50-ish we should avoid styles that break at the shoulders. She thinks cuts should be a good one-to-two-inches above the shoulders, whereas my stylist maintains that after a certain age styles just minimally short of grazing the shoulders are the maximum length.
Now, before you start to get upset with me and my friend, let’s get this on and off the table: We are free agents. If we want to wear our hair down to our waists at 70, so be it.
At the moment, my hair breaks at my shoulders and I’m wondering whether I should get a trim. I rather like it, but a slight snip won’t change the style or shape and it might give me a “lift.” I’m in mid-decision/quandary.
Years ago I read an article in the New York Times wherein women of a certain age with very long locks were interviewed. They explained how much they loved the feminine feel of long hair and also the sort of camouflage it offered them. They totally rejected the obligatory cut after an important birthday.
Still, I’m not sure that very long is a very good idea. I do think that after a certain point, the vertical tendrils pull down the face.
What do you think?