|How très, très French sophisticated: Frog notecards designed by John Derian for Dempsey and Carroll of London.|
|Or, perhaps your taste runs to smaller grenouilles, yet sophistication is still your preference, then these cards from
Mrs. John L. Strong would suit your purposes.
Back on the bully pulpitagain. I’m about to launch into another rant. But I will not be alone this time, my friend, Lisa Richey, who is an expert in the fine art of etiquette will address the subject today.
Let me explain — once again — good manners, politesse. What’s happened to them? Why are they disappearing? What is the world coming to? No drama here. . . Hyperbole is my absolute favorite form of expression. Never underestimate what you can exaggerate I always say.
|Are these adorable or what? Cards from the unspeakably chic Smythson of London.|
Today we would like to examine thank you notes. You know, the ones written on paper, with ink, maybe even a fountain pen, slipped into an envelope, sealed, addressed (obviously) with a real stamp in the upper righthand corner.
|A bijou of a fountain pen from Montblanc.|
Recently the New York Times took the subject to heart in an excellent story about the pleasure in writing and receiving that little envelope nestled amongst the bills and the junk in our real mailboxes. My best childhood friend sent me the article and I am embarrassed to say I only recently wrote with my fountain pen on my engraved stationery, my heartfelt thank you to one of the most important people in my life.
|My notecards, pale blue with my name in navy; and my stationery, a dark beige with my name in Bordeaux, come from this venerable establishment, Vendel Shakespeare Graveur.|
After all my jewelry was stolen late last year, she went into her jewel box, pulled out a heavy 18k gold Pomellato ring with three pink cabochon rubies and FedExed it to me. I thanked her by telephone, I thanked her in a long email, but until last week I didn’t thank her in my own hand, the one with her ring on it which will one day belong to Andrea and later to Ella. Karen gave me not only a magnificent, thoughtful, generous gift, but also the most exquisite of cadeaux, a souvenir, as the French say, which will continue giving memories in our little family forever.
|Perhaps you would prefer an escargot on your bespoke stationery. These are from Benneton in Paris. (Benneton, Cassegrain, Armorial and Vendel are the most revered names in fine stationery and all their attendant accoutrements in Paris.)|
Now, here’s Lisa(click to be taken to her blog, you’re going to love it) who will be writing in this space from-time-to-time I’m happy to say to tell us what’s what. She is another one of those rare and wonderful gifts that keep on giving, a friend met through this blog. She is stunning, interesting, pretty, intelligent and incredibly kind.
Pleased and Saying Thank You in The Most Personal Way . . .
By: Lisa Richey
|So chic, just click here for more. . .|
Have you heard the saying, “It’s all in the details”? When contemplating whether to write a thank you note, send a text or an email, remind yourself how tasteful it is to express your gratitude by pen and paper. We all know how much appreciation is truly appreciated.
A gift certainly requires a written note, but so does an action or event. For example, the dinner party. What is appropriate dinner party follow-up? Yes, a “thank you” verbally as you exit or a phone call the next day is very thoughtful. Why not go the extra step and handwrite a note? So much effort goes into a dinner party, even for just a few people. Many of us have been the ones standing at the sink hand washing serving platters, roasting pans and wine glasses after midnight. This alone deserves a handwritten note, not to mention setting the table and planning the menu.
What to Write
Write the note to express your gratitude for being included in the party. Mention the food or a dish that you were served or the conversation among the guests. Remember, a thank you note should not be a novel. Three or four sentences will do. Be personal. A well written thank you note is always heartfelt.
When to Send
You already know the answer to this one. As soon as you can, but it’s never too late to send a note.
|Fashion, glamor, fun, these cards by Christian Lacroix have it all.|
|More of the same esprit, this time by Giles Deacon form Smythson.|
In order to get into the habit of writing thank you notes, have cards on hand as well as stamps. There are so many to choose from these days.
Writing a thank you note serves many purposes. It not only is a gesture of appreciation and shows a sense of style, but it also says a great deal about who you are.
Do you send thank you notes? What is your follow-up after a dinner party?I would love to know.