|Catherine Deneuve daring to bare (her arms) at the 2014 Cannes Festival.|
You know the formula: 10 pounds on the derriere for 10 years on the face.
As we age our faces naturally lose the plushy plumpness of youth and constant dieting to remain bone thin tends to make us look older than our age. Yoyo dieting is the worst doctors have assured me. Being the queen of yoyo dieting you can imagine how disturbing that is for me. (It didn’t come as a surprise to be apprised of that news, but it was still distressing.)
Thinking about the 10 for 10 equation, I decided to ask the women in my English conversation classes the question: On a scale from one to 10, how would you rate the importance of being thin in regard to your well-being? I posed the question to 12 women between the ages of 40-something to 70-something. All but one of the women are slender, two I would describe as bone-thin, but both claim it’s their metabolism and that if they eat heartily, even when they have the desire to do so, they will be sick.
The sole woman in the group who is what the French would describe as “un peu ronde” said she has given up on watching everything that passes through her lips and has made peace with her size 44 body. She has a creative, boho-colorful way of dressing with lots of beads and scarves. She expresses her exuberant personality through her clothes and accessories.
|Catherine Deneuve with her daughter, Chiara Mastroianni.|
As for the other women, they said that on my scale they rated the importance of being thin and the work that each one admits she needs to put into the effort at an eight. When I pressed, one who is a good friend and attends serious exercise classes four times a week and belongs to a group of long distance walkers, admitted that maybe “it’s more like a nine or a nine-and-a-half instead of an eight.”
My best friend, a former model and mother of six, has been slim as long as I’ve known her which is approaching 30 years. A few years ago she decided to take on the extra 10 pounds, not for her lovely face, but simply because she was “really, really sick of the mini regimes I have done my entire life after dinner parties and holidays.”
|Isabella Rossellini and her daughter, Elettra Wiedemann.|
You commented that Catherine Deneuve had allowed herself to gain a few pounds and I’ve noticed that Isabella Rossellini has as well. I tried to find other actresses or former top models who’ve dared to go for the 10. I couldn’t. Maybe you can.
Oh yes, I forgot to mention: Several nutritionists told me during interviews for my book, that with the onset of menopause, a woman must cut 250 calories out of her diet — every day — to maintain her weight. Lots of fun. . .
Where do you stand on the 10 for 10 conundrum?