Where do you stand on the more or less compendium?
I’m talking about stuff, things, masses of material possessions that are engulfing your life?
Whichever side upon which one falls, scientists have been studying us and have discovered that those of us with uncluttered, organised lives tend to live a more zen existence.
This subject comes up from time to time with my exceedingly tidy, well-organized daughter who regularly purges her surroundings of useless stuff. (Sometimes I wonder if they gave me the wrong baby when I left the hospital.)
Now, about me. The good, the bad and the ugly:
- My tabletops are not covered with dust collecting objects. They feature books, silver framed photographs, and a few carefully selected objects we both like. Actually, the architect in MRFLIF would like to see nothing on all flat surfaces. I told him we needed a compromise on that one. We’re fine; we’ve worked it out.
- Except for that “special” catch-all kitchen drawer, all others throughout the house are well-organized.
- The bed is made and arranged with its useless, thought pretty and and psychologically pleasing pillow collection, immediately after rising.
- Dishes never collect in the sink.
- Laundry goes immediately into its basket. I’m the facilitator who makes that happen.
Are you getting the impression I’m somehow justifying myself before I make the big reveal? Oh, how right you are.
The Bad & The Ugly
- My closets
- My curious emotional attachment to clothes. Nothing else really, just clothes.
The subject came up again yesterday in a long email conversation with a dear, dear friend who successfully purged her life of the things that were a burden and even, in some cases, making her feel depressed because, as she said, some things possessed bad memories evoking negative feelings every time she looked at them.
|Very similar to one of my Chanel coats.|
She asked me if I knew about the best selling book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. I told her I gave it to Andrea for Christmas. The reason I gave it to my daughter was because I thought she would enjoy not only the validation of its contents, but also Kondo’s brilliant psychological and emotional approach to decluttering.
I know about the contents of the book from my friend and the reviews I’ve read. She described at length how light and free she felt since disengaging from the symbols of bad karma, wasted money and useless things.
She asked me whether the things I cling to — though not literally — make me feel guilty about money I spent in the past. Not at all I told her. I tried to explain that the gorgeous designer gowns, coats, blouses and jackets were what I wore when my life was glamorous. I loved getting dressed up for fashion collections around the world and glitzy parties and these clothes hold good memories.
|MRFLIF gave me this Chanel blouse.|
I told her I didn’t want to simply dump my Chanel coats and silk blouses, my YSL jackets, and my Valentino gowns at a French equivalent of Goodwill. I explained that I would like to give them to someone who will wear them and carry on the happy tradition. Silly I know.
What I’ve decided to do is the following:
- Locate within the depths of my closet all items, designer labels are not the definition by which something has emotional value for me, that radiate bad karma. (I have some rather nice clothes that coincided with a few years of above mentioned glamorous life, but are inextricably bound to a very, very unpleasant relationship. Out they go.)
- Pull out items that haven’t been worn in, oh let’s say five years (or more), and take them to the French Goodwill equivalent.
We had some good times, these shoes and I.
- Find a nice home for my three-inch heels that haven’t been worn since MRFLIF asked me how many years I really wanted to tower over him. (I have a happy home planned for them.)
- Maybe when I’m finished with my regime I can once again slip into my Chanel coats. After all I don’t need a glitzy life to wear them. I’m sure they would enjoy a trip into Paris.
Finally, the minute I press “publish” to send this post off to you I’m ordering Marie Kondo’s book.