Sloppy, downright slovenly, is that really the “I don’t care” message a self-respecting woman wants to communicate to her family, friends and innocent by-standers?
Why would any woman not want to look her best when looking her best is one of the things over which she has total control? (Sometimes life doesn’t offer a plethora of opportunities in that domain.)
Why would she think “no one will see me” or “I won’t see anyone who knows me” as an apology for what has no doubt over the years become an attitude shift?
Since when have women decided they are invisible? This is a tragic state of affairs. Remember too, we are setting examples for our children, no small consideration.
Let me convince you that comfort and style are not mutually exclusive. Let me also point out that budget is very rarely a solid defense for looking like you just rolled out of bed and fell into the trousers you tossed on the floor last night, which were right next to the flip-flops you tripped over as you spilled your coffee on your wrinkled, but clean (message) t-shirt.
Entre-nous, are you feeling good about yourself? Are those you love most looking at you with pride and admiration? (Yes, I know they’re proud of you because you’re intelligent, funny and a good person, but that’s not today’s subject.)
Although I am not a wearer of jeans — it’s complicated — I’m an admirer of them and I think the affinity for these remarkable pants is almost universal. I see them all the time in the country and in Paris. They look splendid and clearly I understand their appeal and you have pointed out to me how a woman can do a lot with a good pair of jeans.
My tall, slim mother wore them with great style well into her 80s. My daughter wears them several days a week.
In my outfits, since I’m not a jeans expert and I’ve been told by those who are that every woman must go through a sometimes long and arduous trial and error process to find her perfect pair, I will stay with Levi’s the some times favorite of my daughter and all-time favorite of one of my French girlfriends.
Like everything else in our wardrobes, once we find that perfect something we should stick with it. That does not mean that by remaining loyal to a cut that one must always have the same details and colors.
Take a jacket for example: The collar of a favorite jacket can become a shawl collar or none at all. Neither changes the form, but completely changes the look. Then there are fabric options: linen, flannel, gabardine, velvet. . . Velvet jackets look chic with jeans.
While we’re on the subject, some of you were telling me that you suspect many women “don’t want to stand out.” I wonder why. Frenchwomen always want to stand out. They love the idea of sartorially separating their personalities from the pack.
You know I’m not referencing flamboyance. I’m only ever talking about personal style and always it can be low-key comfortable.
Ed. Note: As you have no doubt realized, I’m on a mission. In other words, I have a lot more preaching to do. If you were wondering why each collection includes sunglasses, it’s because everyone seems to be in a hurry to get dressed and get out the door. With sunglasses one can skip eye makeup. H0w about a quick swipe of gloss at a stop light?