How about a little controversy to start the week?
Did you read about the brouhaha surrounding the A response to the Q inquiry in the August issue of O Magazine?
Q (I’m paraphrasing): Who can wear a cropped top?
A: Women with flat stomachs.
Apparently that was fat shaming. Seriously?
Call me insecure, but I don’t flaunt the bits of my body I don’t particularly like. Let me add that I never did, never have, not when I was 18 and not now. Before you point out that flat stomach or not, midriff baring has a few age-appropriate “rules” you’re right. The rule would be: Just don’t.
What happened to appropriateness, dressing to flatter our figures, using fashion to make us look the very best we can, making us feel confident and bien dans notre peau?
No one needs to be a reed, but if one has a roll where the midriff once existed, why roll it out in a big reveal?
I totally believe that women should feel strong, proud and fierce, but I truly don’t see the contradiction. Of course a woman can do pretty much anything she wishes in the beauty and vestment departments, and then what? She can tattoo her face, shave off half of her hair and dye the rest green, wear a bikini on main street.
Hooray for fashion freedom.
The other day I was chez Babette when a woman in her 50s stepped out of the dressing room and began closely examining herself in the full-length mirror, twirling around in a frothy black silk dress. The dress was backless and that detail disturbed the her. All present agreed it looked stunning on her. She wondered aloud about how she “couldn’t” and “wouldn’t” wear the dress without a bra, because she had “passed the age for going braless. I’ll leave that to my daughter,” she said.
She did buy it and foundation solutions were discussed and resolved. After, she joined our conversation wherein Babette, a friend of hers, two customers and I began to discuss what we would and wouldn’t wear for whatever reasons — age, figure, skirt lengths, etc.
It seemed only logical to all of us that we would choose clothes that make us look good.
Back to Oprah, who has been honest about her struggles with yo-yo dieting (plus we can be sure she has a chef who steams her veggies), and she’s telling us that maybe a flat-ish tummy is not a bad idea for a cropped top. I think she has a point.
Trust me when I tell you I’m not into fat or thin shaming, but I’m very much in favor of self-respect and looking the best we can whatever our age or morphology.
What do you think?