In yesterday’s post, just a few minutes in, I discovered that the two sets of earrings as well as the coat in the first set were no longer available. I understand why and I know too that sometimes we are disappointed when we see something we really, really, really would like to add to our repertoire, and we missed the opportunity.
I rarely see style decisions — OK, occasionally I do (who does’t?) — quite like that. I like to think that missing out on an accessory or a piece of clothing gives us the chance to rethink how we would wear something differently. After all, that’s what getting dressed and getting out there is all about. When we make an important investment in a dress for example, we want that dress to be a canvas on which we can build a new story, several new stories in fact. The details involved can change not only the mood of the dress, but ours as well.
(Let’s talk disappointed for a second shall we? As I was writing this post, the two coats and the teardrop earrings were sold out. I did the sets last night and was scrupulous in choosing the replacement items. Ah, challenges, challenges, challenges. . . I have now turned to the ultimate classic, a trench coat, and this one has a zip out lining so it is a serious wardrobe wonder. As for the earrings, they go with the black dress. May I suggest that we interpret the all of the outfits as well as the replacement items as “ideas” and move on. . .?)
A coat is another story of course, it’s more than an add-on for most of us. A coat is a “serious” piece of clothing as in it’s usually one of the most expensive items in our wardrobe and when we live in a cold climate it is worn over and over and over throughout the fall and winter months. That means a coat needs some serious consideration: Does it work with much/most of what we own, can it be worn day-in-and-day-out, does it flatter our figures and our faces, does it make us feel elegant and pulled together, is it both stylish and warm?
Silly as it may seem, I think something as theoretically simple as a pair of earrings also need some thought. Take the grey knit dress (which I love), it needs earrings that are a bit “hefty” or substantial in some way because of the texture and solidness of the dress. Fragile and delicate just doesn’t work. The black dress could probably go either way, but the fact that it is sleeveless and may or may not be worn with the ultra feminine bolero cardigan indicates for me that lighter earrings might work better with the ensemble.
What do you think about when you choose accessories? What do you do when you realize something you were dreaming about is no longer available — of course I’m talking about clothes, this is not a profound philosophical conversation? (We can have one of those another day if you would like. . .)