Recently a few friends and I have been having conversations about aging and how it’s affecting our feelings of wellbeing and confidence. In other words, let’s be frank, we were wondering what we can do to look the way we feel, which is to say vibrant and full of plans to embark on new, exciting endeavours.
We were wondering if we look tired or haggard or prematurely spotted and wrinkled if our facade will hold us back from accomplishing any of our goals.
Let me give you a little background: my friends include three Americans (two on the West coast, one on the East coast and the third in the Midwest), one French and one English. None of these discussions was in a group context. Each was between me and my friend either by telephone, over lunch or in the case of my French friend helped along with a glass of wine (two, actually).
We’re all in that femme d’un certain age group, which is to say 50s/60s. Furthermore, with one exception, we agree that we want to do “something,” though not for most of us “anything” to look — let’s put it this way: as fresh and unspotted and unwrinkled as possible.
As you might imagine, we traded our stories (or fantasies) about either doing or contemplating doing: laser treatments, Botox and cosmetic fillers. Some of us tossed around the idea of a neck lift, everyone agreed “absolutely no full-on plastic surgery.” Any surgical intervention, if we dared to even consider it, would stop at the chin. That included the aside: “No one is going near my lips, thank you very much.”
Most of the options we discussed come under the header of “intervention light,” but none is without a minimum of risk doctors tell us.
We were all talking in the “what if” context knowing full well the risks and the expense.
This is how we came out on the subject:
1.) I really don’t care. I won’t do anything. I barely use moisturizer these days though I do slather on a 50 SPF sun screen.
2.) I already do lasers and Botox. The results are brilliant for the laser and the Botox is subtle and basically unnoticeable (in a good way). I would never do anything that involved anaesthesia and surgery. Never.
3.) I have done Botox, fillers and dream about a neck lift. Maybe some day I’ll do it.
4.) I had a facelift years ago. I don’t regret it, but I would never do it again. Occasionally I visit my dermatologist for targeted spot removal.
1.) I’ve tried fillers and see the subtle difference. I would love to do a neck lift? Would I do it? Probably not.
1.) I’ve had one neck lift and feel as if I would like another one, but probably won’t. I do fillers and like the results.
As I’ve told you, I’ve done fillers and think the results are superb. My dermatologist did the filler on my nasolabial folds, those “puppet” lines from the bottom of the nose to the outer edge of the mouth. I’ve also had Dr. Gallais remove spots from my hands with dry ice or cryotherapy (liquid nitrogen). They keep coming back of course, but the procedure is inexpensive and effective, usually after two seances. Laser treatments are far more expensive though very effective I’m told.
Now, please join the conversation with this single proviso: Please disregard cost considerations and share with us only your philosophical thoughts on the subject. For our purposes, money is not the object that would preclude a decision if one were so inclined.
What would you do if you could?